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The Looting of My Soul

I will start at the end. All lives will not (really) matter until Black lives Matter. All Lives Matter is like a giant eraser; a thing folx say to remain comfortable at best and neutral at worst while erasing the obvious (Black Lives Matter TOO). Sorta like when you say “love and light” when what

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FALL = (Re) FOCUS

The first day of fall means it’s time to (re) focus. Why? In the summertime months we slow down and enjoy longer days, ocean (or lake) breezes, and long weekends. We eat more ice cream and say yes to that BBQ. Wait! Is that just me? Something about fall — the leaves, the allergies and

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The Season Finale: Facing 40!

I sat staring out at the waves crashing against the shore for many days waiting for the right words to come to me to accurately describe what it means to turn 40. You would think this comes easily to me; I write and speak for a living. I am rarely at a loss for words.

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Why Am I So Afraid To Delegate?

Delegation is NOT for dummies. But you are a dummy if you don’t delegate. I know the word dummy can be quite harsh, but you’re working harder, not smarter when you choose not to delegate. Let’s review…shall we? You get the vision. You brainstorm and strategize. You do the research. You write out the program.

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Is It Time To Throw In The Towel?

My meltdowns are just as fabulous as my million dollar speeches. I’m not joking. I have million dollar meltdowns. Well, you would think I’d lost a million dollars the way this last meltdown was set up. I sat on the train riding home from a conference that was (mostly) a waste of time and money.

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Confession: I am a 3 Hour Mama

It’s Mental Health Awareness Month. Today, I am sharing something I haven’t said out loud in a very long time for fear of judgement. I am a 3 hour mama. Let me explain. Shorty was almost a year old when I had my first revelation (and 900th wave of guilt about something related to motherhood)

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About Secret Lives of Leaders:

From an early age I have been the one leading the charge and setting the pace. I operated mostly on instinct with a healthy dose of ideas I read in books until I got some real experience under my belt. I noticed that books, blogs and articles on leadership often focused on what a leader is conceptually. But it felt like leaders are not real people; actual humans who have challenges, fears, flubs and joy.

I wondered about the secret lives of leaders.

What makes leaders tick? What are the challenges of leading? Can you be a great leader but a terrible manager? My curiosity about the untold side of leadership increased so I decided to tackle some of my questions (and yours too) about leadership and talk about a few of the biggest issues we don’t talk enough about in leadership and management today.

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Kishshana Palmer, is a uni-mom, trainer, educator, and professional speaker. She is the founder of Kishshana & Co. and author/blogger for “Secret Lives of Leaders”. When she is not starring in the Life of My Preteen (okay it’s not a real show, but it could be), she is dropping knowledge about leadership and life. Kishshana is the epitome of your classic 90’s Queens homegirl and quintessential corner office executive. She is your daily dose of Claire Huxtable with a side of Blanche Devereaux.

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I get such a buzz teaching women how to show up as I get such a buzz teaching women how to show up as their dopest selves in the world.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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That's why I enjoy recording episodes for @letstakethisoffline. That platform lets me bring forth conversation and revelations that I have been having with my good good co-workers (and girlfriends) for years! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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At this point, it's hard to pick which one is my "fave", but the one that y'all been all up in my DM's about (in a great way) is the episode with @inspiremany aka "Coach Cass"! It's packed full of goodness that you can use RIGHT now to tap into a happy and fulfilling love life, even if you're super busy and driven. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Listen at the link in my bio and get ready 'cause Cass is coming to you real!
I started my business when I was still working a 9 I started my business when I was still working a 9-5. If I had to tweak a few things I certainly would because, whew chile.... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Doing 12 hour days incorporate was not in the plan, but the idea for my business didn’t spring from a relaxing weekend at a yoga retreat, it came from necessity. I had to find a solution as a single parent with a burgeoning teenager or I would end up missing out on some critical moments and that was not an option! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Now, I’m not gonna lie and say I hit it out of the ballpark straight away. I’ve had damn hard days. I’ve questioned myself, thought about giving up and walking away altogether (too many times than I can count!) but there was one thing I did that has made this all possible: decided that success was inevitable for me and come hell or high water I was going to achieve it! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And with this belief, I never would have never been able to: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⭐ Help entrepreneurs and professionals raise money like a boss ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⭐ Train everyday leaders to build the teams that they love in a role they respect ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⭐ Work with major organizations to find real-world solutions and provide an authentic, high-impact experience for ALL of their employees. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Why am I telling you this? Because you, too, have the power to decide what you want your life and success to look like. You don't deserve to brainwashed into someone else's version of what THEY feel you deserve. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Take a stand for you. Show up for you. WIN. FOR. YOU!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
TGIF, friends!
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One of my hardest lessons that I often talk about One of my hardest lessons that I often talk about is the power of advocating for yourself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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As a Black, female CEO and founder, resistance, ignorance, and discomfort is (unfortunately) something that I STILL have to deal with on a regular basis. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I don't care what's at stake. I will also advocate for myself to walk away feeling valued and understood when it comes to my money. If I don't, then we can't work together - simple as that. But it wasn't always like this. It took a few unfair negotiations, devaluing conversations, lost promotions (to someone less qualified but more white than me), and overlooked raises for me to recognize that the only person who was going to stand in the gap for me was me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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⚡ I stopped underestimating my own value and benefit of what I brought to the table. I knew that there were others with more experience, education, and all that jazz, but there was no one who was going to outwork, out benefit, or out leverage like I was. And all of that came with an investment. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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⚡ I learned to not be afraid to ask for what you want. At the time, I had to educate myself on how to move in these spaces, so if you're not well-versed, begin to educate and read books on the art of negotiation. That's the name of the game in the C-Suite - and as we all know closed mouths don't get fed...or financed. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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⚡ I began to understand that this journey wasn't about me. It was about the up-and-coming Kishshana's who need to learn and understand their work in the workplace. The goal is never to never undersell or overwork. But I can't teach that to others if I don't learn that lesson myself, right? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What advice would you give someone about advocating for yourself? Let's chat about them in the comments! 👇🏿👇🏿👇🏿
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