Facebook can mess up your whole life if you let it. Well…maybe I am being dramatic. It can at the very least ruin your day. Or make your day – depends on how you look at it.
How you might ask? Simple.
Now if you don’t have Facebook, it’s OK. Keep reading because there’s still a nugget here for you.
So the other day I decided to check Facebook and a memory of a post that someone else tagged me in like 4 years ago pops up. It was a video off the mass choir (read: big huge choir comprised of children, youth, young adults and eh.hem…the more seasoned among us) singing for my then Pastors farewell. Now this was in 1990. So the resident videographer of my church circa the 80’s and 90”s started using Facebook a while ago. He took to posting videos of the concerts and services he taped. I’d forgotten all about this particular video (and tag) until now.
What makes this particular video important is that the Mass choir was being led by… my brother at 8 years old. Now this guy (who is gonna kill me if this piece gets out) can SANG. Not just sing y’all but ‘tears well up in your eyes and snot for no reason cry’.
Guttural growling, high note holding, arm swinging, sanging his heart out. Singing so good that people in the choir were swaying, “throwing a shoe and losing it” (and I went to a pretty conservative church so for this to be happening was a big deal). That little boy literally brought people to the alter and lives were changed. I am convinced.
Damn you Facebook memory. I was bawling by the end.
What is it about a darn video from 1990 that could make me cry real tears in 2017?
Y’all – my brothers voice was..eh hem…is magic. So magical that he got a full ride to college for that gift. But he stopped singing. Something happened in college that he couldn’t explain – doctors couldn’t explain – and he couldn’t sing anymore. Crystal clear notes – gone. Bellowing second tenor – gone. Runs and riffs that could make your heart dance – gone. With no explanation! And he had to get a regular job to support himself doing something he’s great at but isn’t his gift.
What kind of cruel joke was this? Was God playing with him? With Us? My brothers gift was – well…our gift too. Right?
Years later – he’s at it again. Slowly but surely, he has picked back up the mike.
And ironically, it was an early morning visit to worship and another Mass choir in a different place that brought it back.
It’s like when you were an athlete and you FINALLY decide to start working out again. You have to start with just…going. Then you move on to walking. Then the 2 pound weights. Then you run/jog. Maybe you increase the frequency of your visits to the gym. Then increase the weights you use. One day you look up and realize that – holy moly you have lost weight, you feel better and your muscle memory has clicked in and you. are. back.
You still with me?
Your career is like that too. Maybe you were damn good at [fill in the blank with your awesome] when you first got into your career. But something has halted you in your tracks. Bills. Kids. Aging Parents. Your Health. Where you live. Something.
So you get up everyday and go to a place and do that thing that meets your needs but it doesn’t satisfy your soul. Your passion feels like it’s taken a backseat to your life.
Let me be your Facebook memory. I remember a time when you jumped up and down with a new idea overcome with the need to see it come to life.
Oh I don’t know you like that? Yeah I do. Right now, I need to see the real you.
Your gift is a muscle and here are three ways to work on it:
- Remember a time – when you felt the most free, alive and hopeful. What about that time sticks out to you? What was your routine? What kind of people were you around? Now you can’t go back in time – but even as we grow you can recreate the feeling you had when you were at your best with new experiences that bring you full circle.
- Take inventory – where are you now? What is working for you? Not working? Blocking you from taking a leap? Dig deep because my friend – the answer is NOT “ I don’t know”. The answer is in you.
- Start – ahhhhhhh yeah this is a big one. Want a new job? Want to move up? Start talking to people in the field you’re interested in. We are truly 6 degrees of separation from everyone we want to know (I’d venture to say 3 degrees). Invest in yourself. It’s never too late to learn something, work with a coach and enrich your life in a new way.
You’ve got talent and skills that people want. Hell…that people need. Organizations need you. Companies need you. But most importantly you need you.
Don’t let a Facebook memory pop up, remind you of who you were “when” and kill your whole vibe. Work on your gift. It’s a muscle.
I want to hear from you. Tell me what your passion is and how you’re getting back to it.